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The Pain of Losing Someone You Love....

Good Evening All, let me start off by saying I missed you guys so much! I have been ill the last couple of weeks, and when I am sick.. It's just not a good look. :-)

I was speaking with a girlfriend the other day, and she was talking about the guy she was with, and she met his new woman. How hard is that? The person you thought you were going to spend the rest of your life with, introduces you to the new woman.

You think about the promises he made to her, and the long talks, and the visits, and all while he was seeing this other woman... And now you get to meet her. Sure, it's easy to say just get over it.. But how many of us can really just get over something like that so easily?

I had my heart ripped out of my chest with the last guy I was "with". So, I know a little bit about this pain thing. And how much it hurts. He decided one day that he liked someone else, and didn't want to be with me. And to add to that, in order to be with the new person, he couldn't communicate with me any longer. And just like that, he was gone... After 1 1/2 years of being with him, loving him, caring for him, he dumped me like a bad side dish.

If anyone is going through the pain of losing someone you loved, I know it's rough. I will not sit here, and just say "get over it"... Because I know it's not that easy to just get over heartbreak. However, I will say this... It will get easier. Heartbreak is not the end of your story! When I went through that break up, I cried, I cursed, I was depressed, I wished I could just die, I wanted him to die.. I wondered what was wrong with me... Why did he prefer her over me. There was a part that I couldn't even pray, I just didn't want to talk.. But then I remembered one Scripture that helped me get through the tough times.

If your heart is broken, you’ll find God right there; if you’re kicked in the gut, he’ll help you catch your breath. - Psalm 34:18 (The Message)

I felt like I was kicked in the gut. However, there was a loving God there to help me to catch my breath. He put me all back together again. And for that, I am grateful! I wouldn't have made it through the pain and disappointment without Him. 

If the person you loved left you, that just meant they were not joined to you... Which means, they were not the one that God had for you. And God allowed that break-up to happen, because He knows there is better out there for you. We are rare jewels in the sight of God. And He does not want His daughters to settle for less then His best for our lives. 

Believe me, there is nothing wrong with you. Pick your self up.. Dust yourself off.. Get out there and run your race girl... And on that journey, you will be pleasantly surprised at the awesome things God has for you... 

I can speak from experience, the pain ends... And life goes on.. You'll find yourself smiling again, life becomes enjoyable again.. I promise you... It gets easier! Lean on the Lord for your everything.. Don't go crying to your girlfriends, cry with the Lord. He is there to comfort you. He loves you, and He knows how to bring you back to wholeness. 

Someone close to me shared this with me while I was going through, and I will share it with you... "Everyday, find positive things to smile about."

Be Good… Live Life… And above all else… Be Unusual!


  1. What an awesome post! This is a powerful blog and many can relate to this form of pain. I know I have been there and what I have discovered is there is purpose in that pain; even if it's just to help pull the next person up. Love you my beautiful sister!

  2. Sonja, that was my prayer. I prayed that someone else can be encouraged, by the pain that I went through. The pain of heartbreak is the worst. But, with God we can recover from it all!


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